In my last blog I wrote: “The culture war on marriage started when Christians abandoned God’s Holy purpose for marriage, and started to divorce and remarry at will. By abandoning His Holy standard for marriage and doing what we feel is right has opened the floodgates of its destruction in our nation.”
When we consider marriage biblically we are confronted with why we are to blame. We also see why in Malachi God say’s He hates divorce. To do this we need to view the reason God ordained marriage in the first place.
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is like him.” Gen 2:18-19
Why was it not good for man to be alone? I believe that the reason it was not good, goes back to the fact that man was created in the image of God, or rather in His likeness. God by nature is relational! He is a triune God. Meaning that He is God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit three persons in one God together, perfect in unity and relationship.
So man was created with the need for lasting relationship. Marriage between a man and a woman is the answer to that need. God created woman for man to make His creation perfect. God’s intent was for them to remain together in unity and relationship and by doing so reveal to their children the nature of God. Sin ruined this as we all know.
So getting back to what I was saying divorce is the dissolving of relationship; and therefore opposite of the standard that God had set forth in His word. It also is contrary to the very nature of God. He has dwelt, and will dwell in perfect unity forever.
God allowed divorce, but He did so because of the hardness of His people’s heart. This is also why the floodgates have been open and we are reaping the whirlwind. By divorcing for any reason we can come up with we are disregarding the Standard God set forth in marriage.
It’s not just divorce though. It’s also the fact that we can stay married and refuse to be in relationship, or let go of our selfishness. Emotional detachment, abusive speech, and actions are just as wrong. Stubbornness, pride, pornography, and explicit romance novels are all part of the issue! You can be legally married and divorced emotionally.
I realize that divorce is a complicated issue in lives. I also realize that some are divorced due to adultery, abuse, and abandonment. I know this. If that is you believe me when I say I am grieved over these issues. However, doesn’t it all start because someone disregarded God’s standard for marriage? The issue is we act out of our desires rejecting God’s standard.